Do you know someone who’s always in a good mood and walks around with a big smile on their face, and you can help but wonder what’s their secret? The truth is, anyone can be happy. So, before you think your situation is unique or it’s impossible to see past the problems in your life, here are ten secrets happy people never tell you.
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1. They Follow Their Passions, Not a Paycheck
The happiest people follow their passions and do what they love. They might not have the most glamorous jobs or earn the highest salaries, but at least they enjoy going to work every day and they don’t feel like they’re stuck or trapped in a rut.
2. They Aren't Afraid to Say "No"
Happy people might be pleasant and always have a smile on their faces, but this doesn’t mean they’re ‘yes people’- they know their limitations. They know that taking on too much and becoming overwhelmed with work can rob them of happiness. So if you’re going to imitate happy people, don’t be afraid to say no — even if it means turning down a promotion and a higher salary if you know it’ll be overly demanding and stressful.
3. They Keep Their Minds Occupied
Some happy people are involved in a lot of activities and they keep their minds occupied. Since our brains can only focus on one thing at a time, staying busy takes the focus off our problems. If you’re bored at work and your mind starts to focus on negative things, ask your boss for extra work. And if you have too much free time after work, start a side business in the evenings or on the weekends.
4. They Don't Let Others Rub Off on Them
The way that happiness is contagious, the same thing happens with misery. People who are determined to be happy keep negative people at arm’s length. They don’t listen to workplace gossip, nor entertain chronic complainers.
5. They Find Any Reason to Laugh
When feeling bad about themselves or a situation, some people make the matter worse by listening to sad music or watching sad movies. Happy people, on the other hand, know the power of laughter. After a bad day at work, they’re making plans to meet up with their silliest friends, or they’re watching the funniest movies to lift their spirits.
6. They Take Risks
Happy people aren’t afraid to step outside their comfort zone and take risks in order to improve their life. They might quit their job and start their own business, or go back to school to improve their career outlook. They don’t sit back and whine about life — they live their lives and make things happen.
7. They Have Their Bad Days Too
Nobody is happy 24 hours a day, seven days a week. For that matter, even the happiest people have days when they’re feeling down or depressed. Maybe they didn’t get an anticipated promotion, or maybe they’re having problems with their boss. The trick, however, is having enough willpower to pull themselves out of a funk. They might focus on the good things in their lives, or get encouragement from a close friend or relative.
8. They're Happy for Other People
To be truly happy, you have to know how to be happy for others. So, if your coworker gets promoted over you, don’t feel jealous. Instead, be happy and acknowledge her hard work.
9. They Weren't Always Happy
Some happy people weren’t always happy — they changed their mindset by improving themselves. Even if you love yourself, you might not always like yourself. Happiness comes from within. So, if there’s something you don’t like about yourself or life — whether the way you deal with people, your weight or how you respond to problems at work — do something about it and fix yourself from within.
10. They Exercise Regularly
Some people don’t recognize the connection between regular physical activity and happiness. Exercise increases your brain’s production of endorphins and serotonin, which can reduce anxiety and balance moods. If you’re feeling down and can’t figure out why, increase your activity level and aim for 20 to 30 minutes a day. If you don’t have time to work, try walking around the block on your lunch break or get a treadmill workstation for your office.
There’s a lot you can learn from happy people. They might not have it all figured out, but through trial and error they know different ways to maintain a positive outlook.
Do you consider yourself a happy person? If not, why? Share your thoughts in the comments section below.