Everyone needs friends. They’re a source of support and encouragement when you’re feeling down, and together you can create memories to last a lifetime.
But while friendships are important, some people won’t be as good friends to you, as you are to them. So, you don’t have to put up with these kinds of treatment.
Here are five types of friends you don’t need in your life.
1. The User
This type of friend only comes around when he or she needs something from you. You might call or text this person, yet never get a response. But as soon as they need to borrow your car or money or need assistance with something else, you’re the first person they dial. To make matters worse, this person might only acknowledge your presence when they’re bored or have nothing better to do. Instead of having a healthy give and take relationship, these friends only take and never return the favor.
2. The Chronic Complainer
There’s nothing wrong with venting to a friend or vice versa. A friend can help you sort through an issue and offer helpful advice. There is, however, a difference between a friend who vents his frustrations and a chronic complainer.
A chronic complainer or a negative Nancy has never anything good or positive to say. They’ll complain about work, life and everything in between. This negative attitude can rub off on you or put you in a bad mood, leaving you exhausted and drained. Even when you try and steer the conversation in a positive direction, the complainer finds any opportunity to focus on the negative.
3. The Competitive One
Competitive friends always compare what they have with what you have. They want to stay a step ahead of you in life, and everything’s a competition with them. If you buy something new, they’ll go and buy something better so they can brag about it. Also, a competitive friend is never happy for you. If you get your dream job or achieve another goal like buying a house, instead of congratulating you, they’ll find something wrong with your job or house. They are okay with your achievements as long as you’re not doing better than them.
4. The Attacker
This type of friend makes you the target of their complaints and jokes. They might put you down or embarrass you in front of people. Whether they are talking about the way you talk or the way you dress, nothing you do is ever good enough. This type of friends make you feel bad about yourself and lower your self-confidence. In all likelihood, these friends are either jealous or insecure, and putting you down makes them feel superior.
5. The Bad Example
It doesn’t matter if you’ve been friends with someone for years — if they are a bad example, you need to limit contact now.
These types of friends encourage behaviors and actions that aren’t good for you. For example, you might resolve to clean up your act and stop drinking or taking recreational drugs. Rather than commend or offer their support, this friend pressures you to continue the behavior you’re trying to stop. They don’t want you to change or improve for the better, so they do everything within their power to steer you in the wrong direction, which can cause you to give up or fall off the wagon.
Although it’s good to have friends, it’s more important to choose the right type of friends. You need to surround yourself with people who are encouraging and supportive, and who make you feel good about yourself.
Do you recognize these types? Are there any other types of ‘bad’ friends that are not included on this list? Tell us in the comments section below.