I miss my college days when I had no significant responsibilities and all I had to do is worry about my studies and perhaps my social life. I was staying with my parents at that time and hence I was provided with virtually everything I needed to enjoy my life at the university.
Shortly after college, it came to my realization that I was no longer in the hands of my parents and had to fend for myself. The transition from a life of no responsibilities to the real world wasnt an easy one for me as I had to learn to be tough and change a few (read all) old habits so as to fit in. I am older and wiser now but had to learn a few things along the way. Quora thread’s "What are the most difficult things people have to learn in their 20s" has interesting lessons that can help graduates who are in this period have a rather easy transition. Here are some of them:
#1 Getting away with lies is harder
If you are used to making up stories for your lecturers or parents, you better think of stopping that as soon as possible, because it wont fly in either your professional or personal life.
"The truth has a way of rearing its ugly head, so the sooner you can come to integrity with yourself and the world at large, the sooner you’ll be able to get working towards what you really want, who you really want to be," Arjuna Perkins says
#2 Partying becomes less of a priority
I must have sworn to my best friend that I would never stop partying, during my days in college. Leaving the party at 3 a.m. and being in class at 8 oclock in the morning was no big deal at all to me. Nothing and no one forced me to stop this habit but its gone now.
As you progress with your career and personal development, you discover that partying is just not a priority anymore. Your body finds it hard to deal with excess. The secret is doing it in moderation.
#3 Life is hard and keeps getting harder
Being complacent is not an option if you want to experience success in your lifes goals. You will notice that in order to survive in life, let alone thrive, you have to work hard. Yes, obstacles and mountains will come your way but you have no option but to press on. I have reached a point where I thought life was unfair and ruthless to me, but I wake up the next day feeling better and ready to prove myself wrong.
#4 You are easily replaceable
Always being at the top of your class, can lead you to imagine that you will be the best employee any company can have. You will be shocked to find out that there is someone better than you and that if you dont put your best foot forward, you could be replaced. Therefore prove to the company you work for that you are an asset rather than a liability.
#5 Pick fights no more
Being young makes you think that the more the fights you pick and win, the better your reputation. Carry this stupid thought with you to your career life and you have the best recipe for failure. Apologize if you have to and if possible be at peace with everyone you can.
"Avoid fights. Seriously. Avoid them like a plague: Nobody wins in a fight, even if you walk away unscathed," Tatum writes.
#6 Your friend circle may have to reduce
As you go through your career life, you will probably notice your friend circle becoming smaller by the day. Maturity comes with wisdom and one of the ways to know you are becoming wise is knowing when to drop unnecessary friends. These are people that add no meaningful value to your life, even though you had a great time with them in college.
#7 Family responsibilities come into play
Family is very important. Till now they supported you, now it’s your turn, Bhatt writes.
While still in school, your family nurtured you in ways you can never imagine. As you become your own person, you will discover that they need you emotionally, financially and yes, physically. Therefore, take up this role with enthusiasm as your family members truly deserve it.
#8 You will never have it all sorted out
Funny how even the most successful people always question their decisions as they go through lifes journey right? Ask Oprah or Donald Trump and you will know that life makes us ask ourselves questions we cant answer sometimes. Relax; you will still make it anyway.
I certainly hope I have shed some light on some of the concerns college students have about the real world. Remember, we were all in college once but made it out here. You can too. You are lucky you can learn from those who have gone before of you.