When you’re the boss, you need to lead your team. There’s a difference between being a boss that is pushy and abrasive in comparison to a boss who provides leadership. What steps do you take to get to that point? How do you get your staff to view you as a boss lady and not a bitch?
Lessons on Being the Best Boss You Can Be
There’s no doubt about it, being a boss requires discipline, understanding, and focus. With that being said, you need to give respect, in order to gain respect. How do you get people to take you seriously, without be too bossy and controlling? The following lessons will help you move from office b*tch, to the respectable boss lady.
1. Being controlling and bossy is not good leadership
Some people are natural-born leaders, others are not. When you’re simply bossing people around, they do not generally respond well. Anyone can bark demands, but it takes a true leader to thoughtfully assign roles. You need to choose individuals that will be able to effectively fill the role you choose for them. Then, have confidence in their abilities, guiding them when needed.
2. Show that you have a good work ethic
Actions speak louder than words. There’s a reason that you’re the boss. You gained that position for a reason, so show that you are the leader in which you make yourself out to be. Don’t be afraid to jump in and help employees in need.
Are you short on an employee one day? Pick up the extra slack. When you show that you have a good work ethic and you’re willing to help your team, your employees will respond better to your requests. When you are someone to look up to, you become a role model for your team.
3. Give credit where credit is due
There are many bosses which feed off recognition. Everyone likes to be recognized for what they accomplish, but make sure credit is given to those that deserve it. As a leader, you will gain recognition by leading and inspiring your team, but make sure individuals who contribute are also shown that they are valued.
Those that deserve credit should be receiving it. This can be as simple as publicly congratulating someone at your next staff meeting. Encouragement is very important as it supports a strong, efficient work environment.
4. Respect work styles that differ from yours
As a boss, you will be clear on what you expect as an end result. What goals would you like your team to reach? As long as your employees are reaching the end objective in a timely fashion, their style should not create conflict. Some bosses only want things done their way and their way only. However, different people have different work styles. What works for one isn’t as effective for another.
5. Don't demand, ask instead
You can achieve the same end result without barking orders. If you approach an employee and say, ’Do this right now’, how do you think they will honestly react? Instead, approach in an authoritative but gentle manner. Ask them instead of demanding orders. Say something like, ’I know that you’re busy right now, but could you please focus your attention on this task?’ Same request but a completely different approach.
6. Be there to listen
Although you may think being a boss is all about talking, it is not. Listening is a very important part of being a boss, not only for your employees but in order to improve. When your employees are comfortable talking to you, they’re more inclined to come to you with ideas and critical suggestions. Also, when you’re willing to hear from your employees, you’re showing that you care.
Remember: anyone can be a boss, but not everyone is a leader. You do not need to be a bitch in order to gain the respect and attention of your employees. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. You know what they say: you catch more flies with honey than vinegar. Be a true leader, guiding your team without being controlling and abrasive.