You guys were always like two “peas in a pod”. After all, your parents were best friends so it became inevitable. That’s why when you decided to go to the same college as he no one was surprised. You even became roommates who studied as well as partied together. And you even dated a couple of other best friends once or twice. So when he asked you to come and work at the same company, you didn’t give it a second thought. Now it has become awkward because your best friend has become your boss.
There’s no doubt that you are having a hard time recognising your friend’s new role. And you are afraid it will impact your friendship as well as your position at work. But remember that old saying, “change is constant”. And when it comes to the workplace, changes typically occur at a rapid pace such as technology, operational processes, staff increases to layoffs, and even seating arrangements. And in your case, coworkers or friends become senior executives. Here you will learn how to effectively deal with your friend’s promotion, and hopefully remain friends.
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Right now, you are probably wondering how your relationship with your friend will change. Will he let you get away with more than your coworkers? Most importantly, you are wondering if you guys will still be able to hang out together.
"People get more enjoyment from cleaning the house than spending time with their boss. But we all love spending time with friends," says the author of ‘Vital Friends: The People You Can’t Afford to Live Without,’ Tom Rath told Forbes.
Rath added that a combination between the two is a good thing. According to a recent Gallup poll, conducted by Rath, people who have close relationships with their boss are more than 2.5 times likely to be happier at work. For the poll, Rath also asked over eight million employees to react to the following statement: "My boss or someone at work supports me” and he found that people who agreed: “were more likely to stay with the company and were more productive.”
In other words, you are lucky to have a boss who is interested in and who genuinely cares about your professional and work life. But you also are wondering: Will he start being pushy and ordering you around? And if that happens, will you be able to hold your tongue?
"You have to figure out how to spar and disagree without threatening the friendship," Brian Anderson, who left his friend’s company and is now vice president of development for Marketo, a San Mateo, Calif., told Forbes.
Remember: at any company that you work for senior executives lead and you are required to follow. You may not like being bossed around by your friend; but if you respect him as a friend, then there’s no reason why you cannot respect him as a boss. If you don’t, you will not only risk your job; but you may also damage the friendship.
Try putting yourself in his shoes. He’s probably a little uncomfortable with becoming your boss. After all, you have seen him at his worst and at his best. And you probably have some good dirt on him as well. But you need to figure out what’s more important to you: the friendship or the job. If things continue to be awkward, perhaps it’s time to move on. This way, you can still remain friends.
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