Confidence is everything in the workplace. It’s the ability to take control and demonstrate your leadership skills. A confident worker is comfortable in any environment and can take on new challenges. These are the sorts of people employers look at when they’re thinking about who to promote to a new position.
If you want to advance your career, you need to start by improving your confidence. Be willing to take on something new. Of course, everyone has a crisis of confidence at some point. But by following these tips you can conquer your fears.
Work Habits and Worthiness
Some people feel confident or less confident based on their work habits. On one hand, you have people who believe they don’t work hard enough. On the other hand, you have people who believe they’re working too hard in order to compensate for their lack of skill or ability.
Figure out which camp you fall into and reverse your work habits. Change them around and see if they make you feel more worthy.
Resist the Negative in the Compliment
Whenever you’re praised for something you did well, resist the urge to be negative about it. Let it all sink in. Metabolise the words and hold them close to you. Feel good about them and use them as power to drive you forward in future.
Allies in the Company
Some people lack confidence because they believe they aren’t part of any particular group within the company. Change this by becoming allies with people who think like you. You don’t have to become friends with them outside of the workplace, just ally with them. Help them out when it comes to work and really feel like you’re valuable to someone else. This will help you to connect with the rest of the company.
Never Suffer Alone
Everyone has fears about their competency. This is a natural part of being human. The problem is when we let these fears fester they become part of us. When they become part of our character, they’re a permanent part of us, and this can cause a crippling lack of confidence.
Express your feelings to someone close to you. It doesn’t have to be a therapist or even anyone connected to your place of work. A family member or your best friend can serve as a sounding board for your fears. Bringing those feelings out into the open can make sure you don’t carry them around with you all the time.
The Mirror of Accuracy
You have to remember that people who lack confidence often don’t look at themselves in a realistic fashion. Make sure you avoid this by looking into a mirror and listing what’s accurate about you. Write down what’s special about you and what qualities you have. Focus on the positive things about you; not the negative. This exercise will help to make you see why you’re a worthwhile human being.
Look Elsewhere Objectively
At the same time, see others how they really are. Look at both their qualities and their flaws. Don’t put them on a pedestal. That’s one thing people who lack confidence in the workplace do. They see those above them and they illustrate them as the perfect worker. To them, they can do no wrong. And this is extremely damaging because it only increases the intensity of those negative feelings associated with a lack of self-worth.
Face Your Fears
Confront what you’re really scared of. You might discover that your feelings are a natural reaction to an event that has happened previously. A lack of confidence is actually an emotional response to high levels of stress. Try to separate genuine fears from the fear caused by stress. If you’re stressed, look at ways to reduce this stress.
Reflect on Success
Keep a journal of your accomplishments. Whenever you do something really well, get into the habit of writing it down. Whenever you’re feeling down, look back on your accomplishments and validate yourself.
Internal validation is what successful people do all the time. This isn’t done in an arrogant way. It’s done in a factual and methodical way. They always know that they do have worth and they have done good things in the workplace.
You’ll notice that every point in this article so far has focused on serious issues. This is all well and good, but at some point you have to learn to laugh at yourself. People who lack confidence and feel unfit for their positions are often unable to laugh at themselves and relax. They think this because they’re afraid of someone seeing them as a slacker.
Enjoying what you do should never become a luxury. It’s an easy way to make life as stressful as possible for yourself. By releasing stress through humour and by occasionally easing off on the pace, you’ll feel better about yourself. You’ll know just because you take some time to laugh the sky isn’t going to fall and you’re not going to find yourself sitting in the boss’s office.
What Do You Want
Another factor you have to take into account is your position in life. You have to think about whether you’re really happy with your life as it is now. You’ll never feel good about yourself if you’re in the wrong career. Sit down and seriously think about whether this is the job for you. If not, do you have an escape plan?
Understandably, not everyone can quit a job they don’t like tomorrow. But what everyone can do is have a plan for how they’re going to move towards living the life they want to live.
A lack of confidence, as we’ve discussed, can happen because of stress. We become stressed when we regularly have to do things we don’t want to do. If you don’t gain any joy from what you do now, you’re never going to feel confident in it.
It’s never too late to change your career. Write out a plan of action now and claim the life you want!