There’s no denying that we live in a fast-paced world. Everyone wants everything instantaneously, why do you think ready-made meals and fast food restaurants seem to dominate the market? We’re a society that is overly impatient and it may be affecting more than you think, as patience is very critical, not only for positive well-being, but also in terms of success. The truth is, not all aspects of our lives are created equal. Just because you can get a package sent to your house in 24-hours, doesn’t mean that the same approach can be applied to other areas of your life. When we get stuck in the mentality that everything needs to happen as quickly as possible, our expectations become unrealistic.
When you think of those who are successful, there’s no doubt that hard work and dedication play a key role, however, patience is also critical within this equation. Those who have perfected their craft, did not do so overnight. We often look at those who are successful, focusing on the glitz and glam of making it, yet we do not acknowledge the steps it took in order to get there.
Impatience can result in giving up, without pushing forward to continually grow and improve. If every successful person gave up at the first sign of trouble, we’d have a lot less people to professionally look up to and learn from.
In terms of your career, patience can make a significant difference. Now, it’s important to note that a career will not develop on its own. You will need to work hard, put in the required hours, train, seek education, and anything else related to the career you desire.
Aside from hard work, when it all boils down, career development has a lot to do with timing and patience. Once you have given all you can, sometimes you need to allow things to run their course. As time passes, you may need to make some adjustments, however, when you approach these surfacing demands with a calm and patient demeanor, you’ll find that you’re able to analyze and weigh your options more clearly.
1. Practice Patience, Start Small
You know what they say- practice makes perfect and sometimes, that’s exactly what you need to do. Remind yourself, that it is okay to take your time and not feel rushed 24-hours a day, 7 days a week. You will want to start small, reminding yourself to be patient. The next time you’re waiting in line at the grocery store, don’t anxiously tap your foot and accidentally think out loud, ’hurry up.’
The line isn’t going to move any quicker with you getting angry and bothered. Instead, take a moment to reflect or think about the delicious dinner you’re going to make. Stay calm and practice being patient. When you consciously make yourself behave in a more patient and calm manner, this will eventually become second nature.
Another great way to practice patience is to read more. Unlike movies which provide us a storyline in two hours, a book requires you to take your time. Once again, for those who are too impatient to read, this relates to instant gratification. If you read daily, this will require not only patience, but discipline. Reading helps you realize that some things can’t be rushed and in most cases, a better career is going to take time.
When talking about your career, being patient is a skill that you will have developed within your day-to-day life. You understand that some things can only move so fast and your goals and action plan will reflect that. If you spend less time and energy focusing on speeding things up, you’ll be better equipped to deal with the present moment, work you can immediately focus on.
2. Understand That Valuable Relationships Take Time
In order to gain a successful career, you’re going to want to network. Just as friendships and romantic relationships take time to develop, as individuals build trust and understanding, the same is true within your professional career. When you look at those who have built a successful career, they did not start with all their contacts.
Over time, they developed meaningful relationships which helped them to continually reach their goals. The saying, it’s who you know, truly does reflect reality in many ways. Sure, you can be hardworking, innovative, and determined, but if someone is in a position to help you kickstart your idea, development can essentially be sped up.
With that being said, don’t feel discouraged if you do not have access to these types of contacts in the beginning of your career. As time progresses and you continually achieve more and more, you’ll begin to gain a reputation for yourself. You will eventually build a solid network of like-minded individuals. Once again, this takes time and being patient will help you get to where you want to be.
3. Learn From Failures Based on Patience
When you are seeking a better career, there’s no doubt that you may face a few challenges. Whether you get rejected after your first major interview or lack the customer base you desire, these instances don’t need to stop you. For those who are patient, it’s easier to see the big picture. When you hit a road block, use it as a learning experience. Based on your planning, you have more than likely mapped out more than one approach. Either you will need to make changes to your first approach, or you will need to try another. If you are in a rush and do not recognize that patience is most certainly a virtue, you may not make it over your first hurdle.
As you patiently rework your approach and continue to move forward, you will find that once you do reach your goal, it will be that much more rewarding. Also, based on your ability to remain patient, bigger and better things may come your way. As you remain calm and levelheaded, new opportunities could present themselves. You never know, you may head in an entirely different direction, one that is better suited to you.
4. Recognize Impatience
If you’re seeking a new career and your search isn’t going as planned, it’s easy to blame external factors. Perhaps you haven’t heard back from a potential position yet, or you are waiting for a position to open up. As you grow more and more impatient, you may blame others based on your expectations. It’s important to recognize this feeling of impatience because it’s your own mindset that is creating this type of response.
In some cases, our expectations do not match reality. Maybe you only sent out three applications and haven’t heard anything back. You may expect at least one response and when these individuals do not conform to your wishes, you become impatient. In reality, it can take hundreds of applications before you find the right fit. You can’t just expect that employers are going to meet your expectations, you need to better prepare.
Once you have recognized your level of impatience, it’s critical that you accept that this frame-of-mind isn’t the most beneficial. In order to transform this stressful outlook, you’ll need to acknowledge it. Think to yourself, is there anything I can do at this time to improve the situation? If the answer is no, continue to move forward, seeking other potential positions or career opportunities. Change what you can, accept what you can’t.
There are most certainly some things in life that you can’t seem to wait for, you know, like claiming your winning lottery ticket – but with that being said, your career does not always need to be on the fast track. In fact, when you take your time and do things right, you may find that your future will be even brighter than you first anticipated.
Patience pays off and for those who are working hard, yet feeling discouraged, take this time to reflect and continue to plan for the road ahead. At each stage, assess what needs to be done and remember; you can’t control everything. What you can control, make better - what you can’t, wait patiently.