Sometimes, it can feel like nothing you do for your boss is right. You might exceed targets and get work in long before the deadline; but he is still hostile and makes you feel that you're not very good at your job. When you come up with ideas, he's dismissive and rude, and you don't know how to communicate in a way that doesn't get his back up. Fearing rejection, you retreat, glowering with resentment from your desk. As a result, you find yourself lacking in motivation and watching the clock until it's time to go home. However, you do have a choice. You can take control, and get your boss on side. Here's how:
Get to work early
You don't have to be watching the sun rise from your desk, but it's a good idea to be ready to start a few minutes before you have to. Your boss will see that you are committed to your work; and will be satisfied that you are not using company time for switching on the computer and pouring yourself a cup of coffee.
Do your homework on the boss.
Speak to colleagues and have a read of the company website. This will help you to find out what he is most focused on in terms of the company, and what his outside interests are. You can then use this information to initiate conversation that allows you both to connect with each other in a meaningful way.
Change the way you react to criticism.
When your boss tells you he's not happy with your work, it is very easy to go on the defensive. Don't stand there silently cursing him, be sure to actually listen to what he says! Show you're listening by saying things like 'I can appreciate that' and 'I understand'. If you're not sure how to fix things, ask! You can ask for help without looking incompetent. Make a comment or two on what he has been saying, then politely ask for clarification of what he wants you to do. Once you've got your explanation, take positive action straight away. This will show a willing and capable attitude.
It can be tricky coping with a boss who seems to dislike you, but it is not impossible. Maintaining a positive attitude and taking action will soon wear him down, and you'll be discussing your prospects of promotion before you know it!
Have you ever experienced working with a boss that 'hates' you? How did you overcome it? Share your opinions in the comments box below...