When you’re in search of a potential mate to spend the rest of your life with, what qualities do you usually look for in that person?
Personally, I tend to look for these attributes in an eligible bachelor:
1) Similar Faith and Beliefs
2) Humorous and Respectable Personality
2) Family-Oriented Values
4) Determined Mindset
5) Financial Stability
Like me, it appears that most American women value financial stability more when it comes to looking for the right man to spend the rest of their life with. Unfortunately, financial concerns are a make-it-or-break-it factor for women on the prowl.
According to CNN Money, a new report by Pew Research says, solid employment is the #1 priority women are looking for in a husband, more than compatibility in raising children or in moral and religious beliefs.
The study discovered that 78 percent of women from ages 25 to 34 claimed this to be true, whereas only 48 percent of men were said to be in search of a woman who has a steady job.
In comparison, more men (62 percent) rather marry a woman (70 percent) who has similar ideas about children. Both groups place the least amount of emphasis on having the same moral and religious beliefs—with men voting in at 31 percent and women at 38 percent.
I’m nowhere near close to being the spokeswoman for unmarried women across the country, but I believe the reason that some of us want to be with someone who possesses a stable employment is because we’ve realized that both men and women should work just equally as hard.
Traditionally, white middle-class family households were structured in a way where men were the breadwinners and women were stay-at-home moms—especially up until the 1940s.
Since these dynamics have changed, women are working and contributing to the household more than ever, and the concept of reverse-parenting roles is more acceptable now.
I do believe most women want the freedom to make their own money and work outside the home, but at the same time we would like to have a partner that is working as well.
However, the number of employed men in the workforce has seemed to drop since the 70s.
On average, the percentage of 25 and older men in the workforce was 98 percent in the 1950s and was recorded as 88 percent in 2012.
Here is the number of unmarried men per 100 women who were employed each decade:
- 1970: 113
- 1980: 111
- 1990: 111
- 2000: 102
- 2010: 90
- 2011: 90
- 2012: 91
Experts have associated these decreasing numbers to three factors: incarceration, lack of education, and disability.
This ongoing trend has contributed to more people choosing the unmarried or single life—especially women who can’t find a man who has an established profession.
In 2012 alone, 23 percent men and 17 percent of women in the U.S. were living single.
As previously reported by CNN Money… fewer of these men are in stable family relationships, contributing to growth of single-parent households. That fuels the widening income inequality gap and stunts the upward economic mobility of the next generation.
If conditions continue in this manner, America will witness a quarter of this group still single and unmarried by age 40.