The myth that “being in a relationship equals happiness” has long been abandoned. As you may have already figured out yourself, the only way you can become truly happy is to learn how to be okay with yourself and be content with what you have.
You might think that being alone means that you are unwanted or anti-social; but in reality this is all about maintaining high expectations for yourself. It refers to not settling for anything or anyone who is not worthy of your love and affection and respecting yourself for what you are. Being alone creates the perfect environment for reflection and inspiration as it allows you to grow. As such, it helps you make peace with yourself and to take ownership of your life.
Here are 10 reasons why being along isn’t always a bad thing and why you should be thankful for that:
1. You are more independent
When you are single, you tend to try out more things on your own. For example, it’s more likely that you will go out for lunch on your own, go shopping on your own or even change your car’s battery on your own - I mean yeah why not, it shouldn’t be that hard right?
In time, you get to feel more confident about yourself, and you are no longer reliant on the comfort a companion provides. Instead you learn how to enjoy your own company and you are perfectly capable of making things work for yourself.
2. You have more time for yourself
In contrast to being in a relationship, your singlehood allows you to enjoy more “me time”. It nourishes self-love as it literately forces you to look yourself in the mirror and identify what your body and soul truly need. At that very moment, you start taking better care of yourself and listening to all of those things you’ve been ignoring in an attempt to make others happy.
3. You enjoy emotional independence
Who is more capable of understanding you other than yourself? A partner may not be able to see things the way you see them nor comprehend what you are feeling. When you are alone, however, you are allowed to be stressed, sad, tired or moody and you are happy with that because you get to express what you are feeling at any given moment without any restrictions or complications.
4. You get in touch with your own emotions
This is your opportunity to connect with your inner self. Essentially, it gives you the time you need to sit down and figure out what you really want out of life. At this point, re-evaluating your goals is crucial because it allows you to expand your horizons and go beyond your own limitations. Attachments are like barriers and having none in your life will set you free. It will help you develop your identity and focus on things that matter to you.
5. You get to connect with your friends
When you are in a relationship, it is pretty easy to miss out on things your single friends do when partying all night long. While being single though, you get to join them and spend more time with them. Since in many ways friends are more important than partners, this is a good time to connect with them without having to explain to anyone why you are spending the night at their house.
6. You can do things you enjoy
Being single is liberating in many ways. Not only will you become more independent, but you will also get to think about what really makes you happy. It encourages you take a step back and reflect; take up a new hobby or work on those things that can help you become a better and more mindful individual.
7. You don’t need to explain or justify anything
One of the advantages of being single is that you don’t need to explain what you do and why you do it. No one is going to get mad for not answering your mobile phone, not texting back or for liking a friend’s Facebook status – yes it has come down to that! You don’t have to apologise or explain yourself.
8. You become more productive
When you are single, your working life gets more exciting. That’s because you get to really concentrate on what you are doing without allowing any distractions to your work. Likewise, you become more conscious of your professional and personal goals and put greater expectations on yourself rather on other people.
9. You get to enjoy your relationships with others more
Being single doesn’t mean that you are alone in this world. You still have your family and friends as well as other people in your immediate circle who care about you and want you to be part of their lives. Reconnecting with your beloved ones is refreshing and self-healing. It also reminds you that the most beautiful things in life are the little things you do and the people whom you share them with.
10. You get some time to recharge
Your alone time provides you with the opportunity to recharge. Having to care about none else but yourself is invigorating. Instead of wasting your energy on arguing over useless and tiny details with your partner, being alone allows you to put your vigor to good use and concentrate on things that matter.
One of the good things about being single is that you can do what you want, when you want and with whom you want. Being single isn’t a bad thing; it merely means embracing selfishness by taking good care of ‘you’.
Just before you go, take a look at this inspiring video from Andrea Dorfman to learn how you too can embrace being alone:
So, what do you think? Is being alone a good thing or a bad thing? Would you rather be in a relationship? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments section below…