4 Things You Need to Know When a Co-worker's Making Your Life Harder

It can be difficult to handle coworkers whose job is to do make your life harder. Is there a way to deal with them? Here are 4 things you should know.

Everybody has that one colleague who always seems to be making their life – and job – harder than it already is. It can be frustrating to work with someone who creates problems rather than solves them because this means that every five steps you take towards progress, you go back three steps and then end up being where you started. This is not only time-consuming, but it also damages the workflow and overall effectiveness of the team.

Perhaps your colleague isn’t as helpful as you would have hoped and every time you ask for help, he/she acts busy and not willing to contribute meaningfully to the team. While you might say this is his/her own problem, in reality, it’s not, because this kind of uncooperative behaviour is affecting your job negatively and ultimately makes it harder for you to achieve your goals.

If you are currently dealing with an unsupportive colleague, there are some ways you can handle the situation.

1. Talk to Your Colleague

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The best way to deal with this kind of behaviour is to have a talk with your colleague. Ask them what’s wrong and find out why they are being so difficult. Perhaps this will help you understand what is troubling them and then you will be able to relate to them. Having a civilized conversation with your colleague will allow you both to sit down talk things through and resolve your differences.

2. Don’t Take It Personally

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Then again, your colleague may have nothing against you, and he/she is just being himself/herself. If this is the case, then there isn’t much you can do about it even though it would be good for them to know how their behaviour affects other people around them. Every time this person refuses to offer their help, try not to take it too personally because most of the time other peoples’ issues aren’t about you.

3. Treat the Other Person Right

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Even though this person might be unhelpful towards you and other colleagues, there is no reason to get into a disagreement or a fight with him. Even if they have wronged you or made you feel bad, you still need to ensure that you are treating your colleagues right and are being respectful. While this of course applies to them as well, you can’t really change their behaviour unless you can make them understand how they make you feel. When they are being unhelpful, kindly point out to them that it’s important to work together and help each other whenever needed.

4. Let Your Boss Know

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There is always the option of talking to your boss about it. If you don’t feel like facing your colleague directly, explain the situation to your boss and let him do all of the hard work. Your boss is responsible for making sure everything runs smoothly and that people work together effectively. If this isn’t happening, it becomes your boss’s no. 1 concern. Since this is a delicate subject, you want to show your boss you have good intentions without badmouthing your colleagues.

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Whatever the case with your colleagues, there is always a possible solution. If you have to deal with an unhelpful coworker, you can always talk to him directly or tell your boss about it, and he/she will take care of the rest. Has this ever happened to you? What did you do about it? Let me know in the comments section below…