Face it. You hate your job. At least if you're not alone with the other 70 percent of Americans who dislike their jobs and feel disengaged at work.
The thing is that you can't figure out how to tell your boss you quit. Your heart races and your palms sweat just thinking about it. Some days you wish you could leave with a cloud of smoke rising up behind you.
But you know you're too nice for that, and you really need that recommendation.
Don't let your fear stop you from leaving a job you hate. It will only eat away at your soul. Instead, when you want to tell your boss to shove it, quit kindly using these phrases.
You want to say: "I can't stand working with you."
How to say it kindly: "This job is great, but I feel I'd perform better in a different environment."
It's said that people don't quit their jobs. They quit their managers. In fact, a bad boss is the number one reason people leave their jobs. The problem with this is that you have to face your manager to let him know you're leaving. And if he asks why...well that can be a tough question to answer because you don't want to make things personal.
Instead, turn it around on you. It's the classic "It's not you; it's me" scenario, but it doesn't leave your boss with a personal grudge against you.
You want to say: "This job is too demanding, and frankly I don't get paid enough for the kind of crap I do."
How to say it kindly: "This job is great, but it doesn't suit my lifestyle."
When your job is so demanding that you don't get time to spend with your family (or friends) and you're simply too overwhelmed and stressed out to enjoy your life, it's time for a change. But you don't have to rant about how overwhelmed you are to your boss. Tell the truth: You just don't mix well with your job.
You want to say: "This job has no meaning. Seriously, it's pointless."
How to say it kindly: "I feel it's time to take the next steps in my career."
Looking for something a bit more challenging? Yeah, you probably are. Employees like to challenge their skills because it helps them grow and develop self-confidence. Unfortunately a lot of jobs aren't open to much creativity.
So move onto a job that does challenge you. The benefit is that it can help you improve your career by teaching you new skills and you get to use this career advancement excuse as a reason to leave.
You want to say: "This business's values are completely different from my own, and I won't stand to be a part of it any longer."
How to say it kindly: "I don't feel my contributions are what this company is looking for. This company needs someone who better understands the vision, and I feel I need to work for a company in which my own goals align better."
Okay, so this response is kind of cheesy, but it frames your leaving in a way that's a win-win for both you and the company you work for. It's a lot better than criticizing the company!
You want to say: "This place feels like a prison! There's no freedom here. Hello? You're hiring independent adults. Maybe try treating them like so."
How to say it kindly: "I feel I would work better in an environment better suited for my personality."
Again, a little cheesy, but at least it's honest. If you and your boss are on good terms, it might be worth mentioning changes he or she could make to keep employees sticking around, but you certainly don't want to offend your boss by dissing his managerial methods. Just tell the truth, but say it in kind terms.
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