The biggest trend for social media users in recent years, particularly for the millennial demographic, an age group that is having a difficult time finding a successful career, has been social media envy. This feeling occurs when a Facebook, Twitter or Instagram user logs into their account and is inundated with photos of their friends and all of their exuberance.
It has previously been reported about how users are feeling envious and jealous of their friends, acquaintances, former schoolmates and other connections who happen to showcase their exciting, rich, decadent and enviable lifestyles. From lovely children to luxurious vacations, from celebrated marriages to a new promotion, it seems everyone is having a great time in life except you.
However, let’s face it: no one is going to post negative news about their personal lives. Remember, people aren’t going to publish photos of themselves fighting with a loved one, they aren’t going to post updates about how they failed on a big work project and they certainly aren’t posting their financial situations on their walls.
We all have problems, and nobody in this world is perfect. Well, maybe Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson or filmmaker Christopher Nolan. But you should never let social media and your feeds get you down because the whole world of social networking is disingenuous, fraudulent and artificial.
On this cold winter’s day, if you are feeling jealous of a friend’s new job or an ex-partner’s engagement in Fiji, then here are five solutions to your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Google+ envy:
1. Stay Off Social Media
If it is extremely difficult to refrain from perusing your friends’ posts and browsing through their glorified (and sometimes photoshopped) images. You’ll realize that there is more out there than just liking posts and tweeting inane messages.
2. An Internal Audit
Are you happy? If not, why? Instead of examining the lives of your Facebook connections and Twitter followers, you should perhaps perform an internal audit of your own life. Is life good for you right now? What are you grateful for? What are some of your resolutions for the next several months? It’s important to determine if you’re meeting your life goals and not attempt to imitate your fellow social media users.
Upon reading your friend’s post about getting his fourth promotion in two years or your cousin’s acceptance into a graduate studies program, then why not congratulate them instead of thinking life is unfair and wishing for their ultimate failure? You’ll feel immediately better once you take a moment out of your day or evening and wish them the best of luck in their future endeavors.
4. Read (Other) Articles About the Topic
As previously noted, this topic has been studied, researched and discussed for a few years now. However, the number of articles churned out in the past year has been amplified. A simple Google search will explain to you that social media is manipulated by its own users to gain attention, increase their number of followers and attain fame from the general public and the mainstream media.
5. Meet People Outside of Social Media
Here’s a question: when was the last time you met at least four of your Facebook friends and Twitter followers? If the answer to that question was once in the past year, then why should you be jealous of people you hardly even know? Instead of grinding your teeth and plotting their assassination, you should contact these people by phone or email and ask them out to dinner, for coffee or to the local cinema.
At the end of it all, the most important thing to consider is your own happiness. Does it really matter if that person you went to high school with 20 years ago now owns a Mercedes-Benz? The response to that question is an unequivocal no. No matter who they are, just be happy for them and focus on your own life objectives and daily living. Facebook should just be for entertainment and not to seeking the adulation of strangers.