"Do I talk too much?" If you have to ask the question, then the chances are you probably do.
Many people complain at work that others talk too much while sometimes others talk too little - of course, individuals probably prefer the latter than the former. Talking too much, otherwise known as being a blabbermouth, can be extremely annoying in any corporate environment, particularly if it’s office gossip or centered around the talker’s personal life.
According to reports, people who are likely to talk too much are those who suffer from narcissism, a case where individuals believe they are the most important thing in the world, or anxiety, an ailment that prompts people to babble incessantly out of nerves and pleasing other people.
Indeed, when something strange or exciting happens to us, or you just have to vent out your frustrations, we need to tell someone. Unfortunately, when you control 95 percent of the conversation and never let the other person speak then it can become way too much and create a bad impression of yourself.
Remember, some of the best talkers are those who never say a word in a conversation.
"Listening actually strengthens your influence," said Clinical psychologist Bob Montgomery in an interview with News Australia. "Showing you’re willing to hear the other person means you’ve then bought the right to offer your opinion or make your request."
If you’re unsure whether or not you’re a Blabbermouth at the office then here are six signs that it may be time to start quieting down:
1. Launching Into a Tirade
When you see someone that you casually work with, do you immediately strike up a conversation? Moreover, how many times does a colleague start a conversation with you? If you’re constantly initiating conversations, then it’s quite possible you’re a Blabbermouth, and you talk way too much at work.
2. Your Colleagues Are Ignoring You
You notice that one of your co-workers saw you but purposely ignored you by walking the other direction, heading into the washroom or looking down at their cell phone. When colleagues are annoyed by a person in the office, they will usually employ these tactics and ignore you as much as they can.
3. Bored, Shrugging & Despondent
During a conversation with someone, they may appear to be despondent, bored or anxious to end the conversation. If any of these traits show up in a conversation, then it’s a signal they don’t want to have this conversation and are only doing it to be polite. Before going into a long winded diatribe, pay attention to the person (do they look sad? Are they in a rush?).
4. Co-Workers Are Looking Everywhere But at You
As soon as you enter the break room or the primary office workstation area, several people immediately look at their mobile devices or computer screens. If a large number of staff members are participating in this type of behavior then it’s likely others do not want to engage with you because you’ll talk for a long period of time - they’re too tired or their break is close to being finished.
5. Budding Into Conversations
When you notice a trio of people standing in a corner talking, do you immediately interrupt and start taking over the conversation? Moving forward, if there is an intense conversation between a handful of people do not launch into it and only wait for them to invite you. Otherwise, they could resent you and talk behind your back.
6. Everyone is Wearing Headphones Around You
Here’s a question: do you notice more and more people putting on their headphones when you’re around? Well, if so, they’re attempting to shut you out of their vicinity and prevent you from talking to them. Warning: do not take off their earbuds and launch into a discussion.
As your time in the business progresses, here are a few tricks to incorporate into your daily routine to minimize your excessive talking habits:
Wait for someone else to begin a conversation.
Ask questions instead of talking endlessly.
Don’t always fill the dead air, even if it’s awkward.
Pay attention to the body language of others.
Refrain from providing an entire historical context on a subject matter.
Communication in the workforce is more important than ever, and it’s a skill that is eroding among the millennial generation because everyone is used to communicating with a thumbs up, 140 characters and an emoticon. By improving your communication skills, you can be effective at your tasks and be someone that others enjoy engaging with. It’s simple: be attentive to those around you