Have you ever kept stuff from your parents, lovers, or friends? Of course you have. Who hasn’t? You keep secrets because they’re things that could rip someone’s life apart or damage a personal relationship you have. Whoever said honesty is the key to a good relationship was definitely lying. Every bone in your body is telling you not to ever let certain secrets slip out. Your heart is wanting you to be honest but your brain is yelling at you to keep your big trap closed. You listen to your brain because you know that some specific secrets are things that never need to be spoken of. The heart needs to sit down and chill. Some of your secrets are skeletons that you need to keep in your closet. The after effects of telling these secrets could really turn your life, or a loved one’s, upside down and you don’t want that to happen.
Secrets are not always bad to keep, especially when it comes to your work life. There is a good side to keeping some information confidential from your boss and your coworkers. In reality, there does not have to be some big climax, where a big secret is revealed and all hell breaks loose. And by hell, I mean consequences that result in you being jobless, homeless, and poor. Keeping secrets can be easy and very beneficial. There is value in letting some things stay buried. There are some secrets that should never be voiced. Here are eight reasons why some things should be taken to the grave.
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1. You Don’t Want to Get Sued
I’m sure many of you have had to sign a legal document keeping you from sharing your company’s secrets. By secrets, I mean growth plans, marketing efforts, plans for clients, and anything else companies don’t want their competitors to know. Keeping those kinds of secrets is not only valuable to the company, but it is also an important factor in keeping your job. You don’t want to be sued just because you couldn’t keep your mouth shut.
2. You Don’t Want to Make Someone Awkwardly Cry at Work
The effect of making someone cry by revealing a secret is crushingly painful. By painful, I mean awkward. Seeing anyone cry is hard to handle and most people don’t know what to do when it happens. Making someone cry at work is the worst of the worst. You feel like you should console your coworker, but at the same time, you have your own job to do. You can’t take time out of your day to have a 10-minute long hug session. That is not professional at all. So, what do you do? I couldn’t tell you. You probably shouldn’t have made your colleague cry to begin with. Keep your mouth shut and don’t air out someone else’s dirty laundry, at least not during work hours.
3. You Don’t Want Your Colleagues to Know About Your Embarrassing Moments
Some embarrassing moments you have are funny and entertaining. Your colleagues would have a great time laughing about your misadventures with life. But others should not be spoken of, ever. Tripping over your feet, running into a wall, or falling out of your chair is completely acceptable to tell other people. Accidently sending nudes to your parents, puking in public or accidently pooping yourself is not something you should be sharing with others. Keep that information to yourself and take those little embarrassing moments to the grave – unless, of course, you don’t mind being given a humiliating nickname for the rest of your career.
4. You Don’t Want to Bore Your Colleagues
Okay, so you have secret. But you haven’t told anyone because it’s not relevant enough to share. If you told someone, they would probably look at you with a confused look on their face and move on to a way better topic. Your secret probably shouldn’t even be a secret to begin with, but it is. You are taking that secret to the grave because you never really got around to telling people. It is so irrelevant that even you forgot about it.
5. You Fear Punishment From Your Boss Like a Fat Kid Fears Exercise
The secret you are keeping could have massive consequences for your career and you are not ready to deal with those. You may never be ready, so you keep your lips zipped until you no longer have the ability to move them. You may have told a little lie about your skills during your interview in order to get the job. You are doing great at your job now, so you don’t know if your lie would even matter. But you are not willing to risk it. Your fear of punishment keeps you from speaking up. Who knows what your boss would do to you if you let your initial fib slip out? The unpredictability of the punishment is frightening.
6. You Have a Hard Time Trusting Your Colleagues
Telling people personal things about yourself doesn’t come easily, especially at work. Your career has suffered from talking too much at your previous jobs and you have decided to not give away too much personal information to your peers. Your previous lack of judgment has made you think of yourself as royalty. You believe that knowing someone’s secrets is a privilege and must be earned. The reason you take some secrets to the grave is because you have not found people trustworthy enough to bond with at work. You don’t want to make the same mistake again and damage your career.
7. You Want to Keep Your Romantic Work Relationship Spicy
Romantic work relationships are frowned upon. As a result, outward flirting with another colleague is not widely accepted. To counteract these ridiculous restrictions, you flirt with your crush on the down low and you keep your colleagues in the dark about your love life. Being mysterious and keeping secrets is an aphrodisiac to you. You love keeping your crush at work on his toes. You are positive that he loves it too, because he never knows what you are going to do next. The best part about it all is that no one knows what’s going on between the two of you. Your version of flirting is subtle, safe for work, and keeps your romantic work relationship hot.
8. You Don’t Want Someone to Steal Your Creative Ideas
Your creative ideas are like your babies. They are your original ideas that you want to see blossom into something amazing. Keeping them to yourself is crucial for your career. You don’t want someone to steal your idea for a book, a new fashion line, or a new app. Keep all of your genius to yourself and wait for the perfect moment to share your creative ideas with the world.
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Your skeletons are your skeletons. You have your reasons to keep secrets secret and you have the right to keep things to yourself. Whether you are protecting your loved ones, trying not to cause someone to have an emotional breakdown, or keeping secrets for your pleasure, your secret is your choice to bear. There are positives and negatives to keeping your secrets and it is your responsibility to choose what to do with yours. Will you take yours to the grave? Let us know in the comments section below!