How to Avoid Brandishing a Misplaced Sense of Educational Entitlement in Public

Educational entitlement is good because in essence, there’s that pride that comes with years of hard work in academics. However, it can also spark a lot of controversy particularly when it’s used inappropriately in public. For instance, some love brandishing it in public presentations to maintain their egotistic supremacy. That as long as I have this degree, that masters or several PHDs, then I’m better off than the rest and I wouldn’t mind rubbing it in your faces. Yet what many fail to realize is that...

Admirable Respect is Earned, not Demanded

Once in a while, I get invited to career events that involve renowned stakeholders and key players in respective industries mentoring young and aspiring careerists on various fronts. Unfortunately, in a bid to demand respect, you’ll find some arrogant key guests starting their speech by brandishing all their academic credentials. It’s okay to be discrete and state your credentials in brief, but some will go as far as thoroughly reading the entire chronology of their credentials. Of course, they do expect to generate lots of respect and admiration but the audience’s remarks after the event reflect far from the contrary. Because it’s more or less about...

How you Make People Feel

Of course everyone attends such events to feel inspired and uplifted. Unfortunately, when such misplaced sense of entitlement is brandished to the audience, a lot of unnecessary negative emotions tend to be ignited. This can range from anger and disappointment to pure envy and resentment. And whether you like it or not, your very presence in future will always remind people of how you made them feel inferior with your egotistic tendencies. Plus...

You’ll tend to chase away Promising Prospects

The best opportunities in life have this uncanny habit of coming at the most inconveniencing and unexpected of times. And when your misplaced sense of entitlement comes first during public presentations, even prospective employers who initially admired you for your humility subliminally feel threatened, insecure and are thus chased away. I mean, who would want to employ someone that makes them feel inferior, right?

How then does one avoid brandishing a misplaced sense of educational entitlement in public?

#1 Work on your Self- Esteem Issues and Insecurities

From my personal experience, people who’ve got nothing to offer usually turn to their accolades as automated shields to hide their insecurities. And I tend to think that this largely stems from self-esteem issues that compel an individual to overcompensate for who they really are. It’s just like job interviews where candidates produce all these impressive accolades expecting to clinch opportunities with ease. But when it comes to demonstrating prerequisite skills, a majority fall short of prospective employer’s expectations. Yet if only they learnt to be humble, they would have the perfect opportunity to present people with pleasant surprises instead of rubbing their accolades in people’s faces. Speaking of which...

#2 Emulate Humble Super achievers

Maybe some of us want to exercise humility, but our upbringing always insisted on educational entitlement. It’s one thing to be proud of your achievements, but it’s another to brag out there about them. Yes, this might sound like sweet music to your parents, but in the real world, divergent views and opinions will generate conflicting feedback, most of which will be meant to tame your ego. That’s something that influential super achievers have learnt. And so for them, it’s not about thumping their chests. Far from the contrary, it’s about convincing people why they should praise their expertise through presentation of actionable results without having to raise an accolade finger. But this can’t happen unless you...

#3 Focus on People’s Interests FIRST and thus Earn True and Respectful Admiration

Indeed, you’ve achieved accolades and that’s quite obvious, but what can you do with them? What’s the use of an army general having medals that don’t correlate with their particular set of combat tactics? Moreover, why show them off in the first place if they can’t substantially account for them? Just look at it this way - if people FIRST see your immense talent and skill in the presentation itself, then they’ll want to know what your accolades are. And when they see them, they’ll be pleased with the fact that you were wise and prudent enough to showcase your skills first before anything else. In essence, you put their interests before yours and consequently, you’ve earned yourself true and respectful admiration.

Everyone has got an ego. And when they’re bruised, we tend to brandish them in a bid to even the scales. Yet what we fail to realize is that as justifiable as it may sound, misplaced educational entitlement might end up becoming a serious habit and you’ll find yourself making unnecessary enemies. That’s why it’ important to learn to swallow your pride even as immature personalities tempt you to engage in egotistical conquests. As an anonymous tip once put it, "Swallow your pride occasionally, it’s non-fattening."

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