Being charming is about being likeable, polite, pleasing to talk to and delightful to be around. In the business world it is likely you would rather deal with someone who has these qualities than with someone who is rude and blunt. Sure there are people out there who are less than pleasant to deal with and who are extremely successful. However if you want to give yourself the greatest chance to succeed you’re going to want people to like you. Here are a few tips you can follow to help you charm the pants off anyone when you’re at work.
Grin and show those pearly whites. It seems simple but the smile needs to be genuine. People can see right through a fake one. When you walk into work greet everyone you see with a smile. Having a smile not only gives off positive vibes but it also shows you are relaxed and approachable. No one wants to talk to someone who is showing they are clearly in a grumpy mood. They want to talk to someone that is going to leave them feeling good after the conversation. You need to make sure you don’t overdo it either. Don’t start giving off exaggerated smiles because people will instantly know that it is fake. If you are having a less than great day then just try and keep conversation to a minimum.
2. Dress Well
You might think charm is all about your personality and the way you act, but things like how you dress are also a factor. While we say we shouldn’t judge a book by its cover people still do. So when someone sees you the first thought they have of you is going to be based off your appearance. You want to give people the right impression so dress well. Dress fashionably and keep yourself nicely groomed. Pay attention to the little things as well. Make sure your clothes are nicely ironed and that your shoes aren’t overly marked and scuffed. This is another area you don’t want to go overboard in however. Dressing well doesn’t mean that you have to dress up in all the flashy designer items you own. Covering yourself head to toe in expensive items could give people the impression you are just trying to brag.
3. Knowing When to Touch
This is meant in an entirely nonsexual way but having a small physical connection with someone can prove very powerful in making connections. Someone who is charming will know the right time to touch someone. Sharing that intimate moment has proven to be beneficial by making someone seem more friendly and approachable. It can even help increase the chance of compliance during a conversation. This is particularly helpful if you’re having a conversation with someone about creating some kind of business deal. It might start with a simple, firm handshake when meeting with someone for the first time. It might be patting someone on the shoulder to congratulate them or touching their upper arm to help reinforce the sincerity of your words. This is a delicate area though and you need to make sure you don’t go overboard and start making people feel uncomfortable. If your work deals with international clients you also need to be aware that in different cultures, different touches may have different meanings and connotations.
4. Maintain Eye Contact
Maintaining eye contact with someone during a conversation will show you are truly interested in them and what they have to say. It is also human instinct to not trust someone who will not look us in the eye, so give them a reason to trust you. To turn the charm factor up open your eyes a bit wider and have a small smile on your face at the same time. This will truly help to show you are interested. People are flattered when they feel someone is really interested in what they have to say. Though you might be busy taking that moment to stop and look at the person talking to you also helps to make them feel important. Don’t downright stare at them though. This can just come off as creepy and intimidating. Make sure to blink or have brief moments where you break the eye contact in order to avoid this.
5. Remember Names
This is one that a lot of us can struggle with, particularly when you’re at work and surrounded by a large group of people that is constantly changing -as people leave and new people get employed. However you need to try your hardest to remember names. You might have even experienced that less than great feeling when someone you felt was important shows they never remember your name. Don’t make others feel like that around you. Someone who is charming will not only remember your name but will also remember small details from past conversations. This means you just have to truly listen and engage when talking to someone. Being able to show someone you remember these things later on will make them feel important and it will also make them feel happier when having a conversation with you.
6. Don't Come Across as Perfect
When you are talking to someone who seems that they can do no wrong it can be a bit intimidating. Charming people do not want others feeling intimidated by them, they want people to feel comfortable around them. One way to help make people feel this way around you is to show, during conversation, that you’re not a perfect person. Sharing a tale of a time when you made a mistake can be a great way to give advice to others. It can also allow you to be a source of laughter which is a great way to show you don’t take yourself seriously all the time. Being able to admit when you’ve made a mistake also takes away the power from others to ever laugh at you or point out your flaws. You’ve already owned up to them so there’s no point in continually bringing them up. Like everything though you don’t want to go overboard. Don’t constantly tell tales of mistakes or flaws because then you just might start coming across as someone who can’t be trusted to do their job properly.
7. Know When to End a Conversation
There is a time and a place for long conversations but usually during work is not that time. This means that as a charming person you need to know when it’s time to wrap things up with someone. When a conversation starts to drag on for too long people can begin to get bored. The feeling of boredom is not something you want people to associate with you. Even if you have a lot to say make sure the other person gets an equal amount of talking time. It might be that you have to save some of your tales for a later date. If you have run out of things to say, think the conversation has gone on for too long or think the other person is getting bored then bring it to an end. You can excuse yourself by saying you have some work you really need to attend to. If you’re worried about coming off harsh then you could always arrange another time to keep talking with the person before you part ways. Conversations become better with time, so save the long winded stories for when you’ve gotten to know someone a bit better.
Being charming or at least being able to demonstrate some of the characteristics of a charming person will go a long way in helping you at work. If you have any more advice on how to be charming at work, please share with us in the comment section.