How To Cope When Your Coworkers Are Excluding You

Humans are social beings, in the sense that they like each other’s company and to do anything big –like taking chances for example– they need to feel supported by fellow humans. This is nowhere truer than the work environment. We often lose precious work time because we simply had to tell our work BFF the latest gossip. You’d think that as long as the work gets done, there’s nothing wrong with the bonds that we form at work. But, you are forgetting that there’s always that one person that everyone excludes.

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For some reason, there’s at least one person in every office who never gets the time of day. People ignore him or her, and they always seem to exclude him or her from every office activity that’s fun. If you’re that person, I’m sure you feel like crap for the better part of the day. In fact, you probably go without talking for so long that when someone finally talks to you, your voice sounds weird which makes things even worse and makes you feel more self-conscious.

The good news is that you don’t have to be excluded anymore. You can take matters into your own hands and stop others from excluding you. Check out the guide below to find out how.


1. Change People’s Opinions Of You

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Sometimes the problem is that our colleagues feel we don’t belong to the group, which we may not, but remember you’re not there to socialize, you’re there to work. Having said that, it’s important to also note that people are much happier at work when they interact with their fellow workers. So although you don’t have to belong to the group, it’s best if you could get along with them.

This is why you should put some effort into changing people’s opinions about you. For example, if you’re a relatively a quiet person try voicing your opinions every now and then, try cracking a joke etc. Just identify what the rest of the group has in common and try to adopt some habits that will get you included.

2. Try Working With Them

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Sometimes the problem with being excluded comes from not working closely with your colleagues. For example, if they all work together on a project but you’re doing solo work then the rest of them will be bonding while you’re excluded. To remedy the situation ask your boss if you could collaborate with your colleagues as well.

3. Find Other Allies

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Of course, you don’t have to get along with your colleagues. If you find them annoying, and you’re happy not talking to any of them, then that’s fine. It’s wise, however, to have a few allies within the company since no man is an island. So try seeking friendship in other departments, this way you can still have your watercooler conversations and let your colleagues know that you’re not a loner.

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It’s important to remember that you should never allow work relationships to affect you too much because they’re simply not as important as your after work relationships.

Have you ever used any of the methods mentioned above? Did you find them effective? Let us know below...