Once you leave the playground, you expect to get on with life, meet better people and have better options. It is the hope of an improvement at high school, college and work that keeps you going. If you had it tough time at university, then the light at the end of the tunnel is work - you tell yourself: Once I start working, I will meet better people, stand up for myself and be happy.
And then it all comes crashing down when you start work and hate your colleague - whether they are your equals or superiors. It takes a while to realize that this is, indeed, it - at least for a while. If you have morally degrading colleague, an unhelpful supervisor or a manager with an inferiority complex, then you probably know exactly what I mean.
But is this a reason enough to quit your job?
The answer to that is plain and simple: NO.
If you have a colleague who drive you crazy, you have to do something about it. There are times when you can suffer in silence, but then there are moments when their bullying leads to you being unproductive. That is when their petty behavior becomes detrimental to your career. The solution is not to quit, but to resolve the issue. Leaving you job because you got defeated by someone’s bad attitude only harms your career, not theirs!
Here are 3 ways to deal with a colleague you hate:
1. Find out what exactly the problem is: this can be anything from them feeling threatened by you to their having prejudice against you. They clearly have a problem with you, so why not point a finger at what exactly it is. Here’s a list of reasons why they act the way they do:
- Jealousy - is your manager spending more time with you than others? This may be stepping on someone’s toes!
- Anger - they have issues with new people and feel threatened by them
- Insecurity - you’re good at your job and people like you, so they feel insecure in their position
Many times you will find that the colleague actually suffers from an inferiority complex, or that they aren’t confident - so they bully you to feel powerful/better.
2. Identify how you can resolve it: Once you have figured out what the issue is, it would be easier to resolve it. You have a choice - you either fix the problem or get over it. If you choose the first, you can:
- Confirm your feelings with some - ask another colleague to observe the bully’s attitude towards you
- Ask your manager to step in - they can act as a mediator to ensure things remain under control
- Talk to HR - if the problem bugs you to the extent to quit your job, then you need to take action by talking to HR and solving it
3. Have a Defense Mechanism
So you know that your colleague has issues with you - regardless of what they are, you need to put on your grown-up pants and deal with it. Every time you feel bullied or unnecessarily attacked by the colleague, put on your winning smile and walk away. Nothing annoys a hate more than their hatee’s happiness. You are successful and a threat - which is probably why you are being treated this way. Keep going the way you are and pretty soon you won’t have to deal with petty people because you’re likely to bypass them in your career!