This is a dilemma many working couples face. Sure, you and your partner love each other and enjoy each other’s company. But after working 30, 40 or 50 hours a week, you might find it’s challenging to keep your love alive, and you might feel you have little energy or time to give your partner. However, if you don’t put forth the effort, your relationship can suffer. Fortunately, there are simple ways to keep love alive when you’re exhausted from work.
1. Be Affectionate Whenever You Can
If you and your partner barely see each other during the work week, you need to take advantage of every opportunity to be affectionate. It doesn’t take any strength to be touchy with each other. Don’t leave home without giving your partner a kiss or a hug, and repeat the gesture when returning home. Hold hands or cuddle while watching a movie or TV program. You might not have a lot of energy for anything else, but every bit of affection counts toward keeping love alive.
2. Conserve Your Energy After Work Hours
Even if you have a stressful, demanding job that takes all your energy, don’t let work consume the little bit of energy you have in the evenings. Avoid bringing work home, if possible. Understandably, you might have household chores after work, such as cutting the grass, doing laundry and washing the dishes. But if you need to put off chores in order to spend quality time with your partner, it’s okay and your relationship will thank you.
3. Schedule Your Dates Earlier in the Day
Rather than eat lunch with your coworkers every day of the week, schedule lunch with your partner once or twice a week. This is an opportunity to enjoy a meal and converse without interruption. This is also an excellent way to have a weekly date with your partner, especially if you’re always too tired to schedule date nights during the evenings or weekends. If you can’t schedule a lunch date, consider paying your babysitter for an extra hour and meet each other for a “happy hour date” after work.
4. Take a Day Off Together
Depending on how much vacation or personal time you have, you and your partner can plan a day off together. After you put the kids on the school bus, spend five or six hours together alone and catch up. You can hang around the house, go to an amusement park or spend the day at the beach — whatever you like. If you can’t do a full day, take a half-day off from work.
5. Send Cute, Sweet Messages to Each Other
Thanks to text messaging, social media and email, it’s easy to stay connected with your partner throughout the day. Also, it doesn’t take a lot of energy to send a one or two-line message. You can drop your partner a sweet line if you’re too busy to have a conversation. Saying something as simple as: “I love you” or “I’m thinking about you” will put a smile on your partner’s face and keep your love alive.
See also: Striking the Work-Life Balance
Work can take all your strength, to the point where you don’t have energy to spend with your partner. Unfortunately, this can damage your relationship. However, if you get creative and find ways to make time for each other, you’ll maintain a healthy, strong bond.