Deception is a great thing. It helps you progress your career, strengthen interpersonal relationships and make you a trustworthy member of industry and society. The main tool for effective deception is lying, in which you slightly reinterpret truthful events for your own benefit. Deception and lying are usually morally applauded and encouraged, and if you haven’t figured out that the entire intro was a lie, you might want to watch this video. The speaker is Pamela Meyer the author of Liespotting and will show you how to spot lying based on empirical research.
Lying is a cooperative act
A lie needs a transmitter and a receiver. There are lies to uphold social decency or to protect people emotionally, and these are kind of OK. Deception, which is extremely dangerous, exists when the lie isn’t perceived as dishonesty and results in manipulation.
We condemn lying, but we also technically condone it
To a certain extent we are not ambivalent to the fact that we are being lied to but at the same time it is part of our culture, even our daily lives. Fictional literature is technically lying and let’s not even get into the deception of mass media.
So how do you spot deception or lying?
Formal Speaking, none contracted denial
Yes, this sounds crazy but formal language generally distances the guilty party from the subject. Also, attempting to discredit the counter-argument or the truth seeker is an indication.
Recalling the event in chronological order
The speaker mentions that an interrogation specialist will actually have the guilty party recall their story in reverse chronological order and see where they might fumble.
A liar will lower the tone his or her voice during the recollection of their story.
This indication is pretty self-evident but very subtle, the speaker calls it emotion leaking. These are actions that are contradictory to what the liar is saying. For example, someone might be conveying a story that is very convincing but at the same time shrug his shoulders once he has completed his story.
For a little further information on recognizing lying check out the video below.
Do you have the ability to recognize lying? Have you used the information in this video to catch a someone lying? Let us know in the comment section below.