In this technological age, we are gradually becoming overwhelmed. Using the advantages of technology—like smartphones, emails, texts, and online transactions—makes us more readily available to others, which in turn, creates opportunities for us to feel inundated by technology. This article will address four steps in line with Dr. Meggin McIntosh’s video on saying "no" and how to stop overwhelming your life.
Learn How to Say No
The first step you need to take in order to stop overwhelming your life is to learn how to say no. Be prepared to experience some struggle in this area. We have been programmed to say yes, even when we know full well that we cannot accept another responsibility. Individuals from recent generations operate within the mantra that they want it all and have removed no from their vocabulary. However, not being able to say no to added responsibilities, will most definitely cause you to become overwhelmed.
Setting specific boundaries in your workplace environment and personal life will help you to find a way out from under your busy lifestyle. There is a simple formula that you can implement in your life to ascertain how you can say no to overwhelming responsibilities. Basically, confirm your actual commitments, calculate the time needed to fulfill those commitments and if you have no more time to take on more responsibilities, say no. If you are too busy and still say yes to more responsibilities, you will not stop the endless cycle of overwhelming your life.
Focus on Tasks Meshing with Abilities
After you have learned how to say no, you need to learn how to focus on only taking on responsibilities that are within your capabilities. For example, as it pertains to the workplace, if you have been asked to join a new creative brainstorming team, but the requirements do not completely mesh with your current capabilities, it is acceptable to say no to that assignment (unless, of course it is a required task from your employer).
Focusing on tasks that are outside your purview of expertise will only succeed in frustrating you further because you shouldn’t have been doing that task in the first place. If you keep accepting assignments or responsibilities simply because you think you can complete them better than others in your life, then you must change your perspective. You need to learn how to delegate tasks and responsibilities in your life.
Build a Solid Support System
In addition to knowing how to say no and only accepting responsibilities within your abilities, it is vital to build a solid support system in your life and professional network. We all know that having a solid support group is important; especially as a vehicle to vent strong emotions with regard to feeling overwhelmed. However, you need to make a point to steer clear of the constant negativity and focus more on the positive aspects of your situation. For example, over-venting each day (regarding the same subject) can have negative consequences and continue to feed the overwhelming situation.
On the contrary, you should focus on utilizing your support group as a means to instill positive influences and encouragement into your life. Surround yourself with individuals in both your personal and professional life who help you to stay calm and support your goals.
Change Your Perspective
The final step in how to stop overwhelming your life is to focus on changing your perspective. In order to do that, you need to take the time to get alone to think. You may think this is defeating the purpose of completing all your daily tasks and responsibilities. However, if you don’t take the time to refocus and think about your purpose in this journey, you will have a more difficult time in following all of the steps discussed in this article.
Individuals, who cultivate thinking time each day, will become more effective and productive in their personal and professional lives. Cultivating this time will help to keep you more creative in dealing with solutions to problems. Additionally, evaluate how you operate under a specific perspective each day. For example, if you feel as if you need to say yes to more and more tasks and responsibilities, you need to reevaluate that perspective. During this think time, you can evaluate whether or not you need to remove some tasks or responsibilities from your daily routine that are time-wasters. Use this time to get a fresh perspective on your daily life.
Simplifying your life in order to stop being overwhelmed is a simple process if you follow the steps discussed in this article. If you have been trying to stop being overwhelmed, what steps have you taken to complete this process?