One of the greatest achievements in life is to be able to say that you have lived an exciting and fulfilling life without any regrets. Since this is easier said than done, many people have found at old age that there were things they wanted to do or say but never had the chance to do so. Perhaps they were really busy on doing other things or pleasing others and didn’t have the time to reflect on what they really wanted out of their lives.
While this is a rather sad thing to say, it can teach you many valuable life lessons as in the way you choose to live your life. It forces you to reevaluate the purpose of your life and focus on the little things that matter the most.
Here are the top ten regrets people have expressed during their last moments and how you can use them to live a more fulfilling life:
1. "I should have followed my dreams"
Life is full of surprises. You cannot predict its course nor can you ever be sure about the future. However, you can make plans on how you want to live your life and set some real goals in place to ensure that you are working towards achieving what you are destined to do. Not following your passion will only leave you regretting about the chances you didn’t take when the right opportunity came along. Above all, you should learn not settle for anything that you don’t want.
2. "I wish I had more time for my family"
Job requirements are getting bigger and bigger, and often you find that you have to invest a lot of personal time to get things done. While this is beneficial for your career, it may be hurting your personal life and your relationship with others. This is all about figuring out what’s really important and achieving a work-life balance so that you avoid not being around when your family needs you. If you only spend your time making money, you will miss out on important things such as watching your children grow up. Always remember that you should work to live, not live to work.
3. "I should have said 'I love you' a lot more"
It’s only when you reach towards the end of your life that you realise how important it is to have someone around you that you love and loves you back. Not expressing your feelings when you can, either because you are afraid of rejection is worse than not doing it at all. Find the courage to tell people you care about that you love them more often so that you avoid regretting not doing it later.
4. "I should have traveled more"
How many times have you said you were saving some money to travel around the world but never got the chance to do it? Now just imagine experiencing that feeling when you know you can’t do it anymore. It’s heartbreaking. Make some time to go on a trip every once in a while, and invite your friends and family to go with you. This doesn’t have to be a long vacation; just ensure you are traveling to different places every time. Traveling will allow you to see the world, to meet different people, and it will let you grow as a person.
5. "I wish I made more friends"
As you get older, you realize who your true friends are. They are the ones who have stayed in your life the whole time and have helped you face difficulties along the way. But if you don’t take care of your relationships, it’s easy to lose contact with them over the years and you are risking of spending your last days alone. In order to avoid this, stay in touch with them and call them often to see what they are up to.
6. "I should have saved more money"
When you are young you don’t realize the importance of saving some money for your retirement. While it may be a long time away, you need to start investing for the future so that you are able to live comfortably as you reach old age. Make a plan and determine what you really need to avoid wasting your money on unnecessary things.
7. "I wish I resolved my conflicts sooner"
Resentment and anger can live inside you much longer than you think. Before it’s too late, you should confront those who have wronged you in any way or apologize to them if you if need be. This will help you resolve past conflicts and will leave your mind at peace when you are older.
8. "I wish I wasn’t too afraid to do things"
The fear of failure can hold you back from realizing your true potential and doing what makes you happy. Especially when it comes to making an important decision, fear paralyses you and makes you feel hopeless. In order to live your life to the fullest, learn how to control it and take risks as this is the exciting part of life.
9. "I wish I had children"
As a person who never had children, you may feel the need of being around people you can call your own family when you are older. While you may be thinking having children may be getting in your way of your career goals, they are also the ones who are going to take care of you when you need it the most.
10. "I wish I could've live happier"
Being happy is a choice you make to yourself every day. There is no point in being miserable when you can be awesome instead. Many people don’t realize that they can do that and they are unwarily wasting the precious moments of their lives being negative and unwilling to change. So, if there is anything that doesn’t make you happy, change it today to avoid regretting not doing so for the years to come.
It is important to realize that you have only been given a lifetime. What you choose to do in that time will not only reflect the life you had but will also have an immediate effect on the people you leave behind. Don’t waste your time on things that don’t matter to you; learn from these people’s regrets and make the most out of your life!
What advice would you give to others so they don’t have any regrets in the future? Let us know in the comments section below…