First thing is this. Nobody likes to hear that they need to ‘fix themself’.
It's a rude thing to say, and as much as it really doesn't pain me to say it, it's true. If you've never been able to land a lucrative job, you know that the problem isn't everyone else. It's you.
Outstanding. If you're still with me, you're in a good place. Not everyone has the intestinal fortitude to admit they have a problem, and I'm pretty sure we've lost the people with too much pride to admit that they're wrong (heaven forbid!).
But let's get to the root of the issue — we've all been there.
Put it this way — every successful person on this hungry dog of a planet has failed. Consistently failed. I'm talking about failing over and over and over again, until that beautiful day when the pieces of the career-making puzzle start coming together. If you want to see proof of failure (from the most successful people out there), stick around, I'll give you a heap of examples in Part 2.
The road to success starts as a tiny speck — a faint glimmer of hope in the distance, sometimes when you're right on the verge of laying your head down in the dirt you just got kicked into.
It may be a simple word of encouragement from a friend, or an interview opportunity that you have a chance with. You may not even know what made that hope flicker, but like a single spark that starts a forest fire, you feel the change growing; the glimpse of momentum that will soon consume you, fill you with confidence, and result ultimately in the job you've hoped for since you started on this road.
This is a job that scoffs at even the thought of your last salary. And now it's yours. Completely yours.
But there's a few hurdles that need to be jumped. Or bulldozed, or sidestepped — there's always a variety of tactics for whatever problems you face, some being superior to others. But to win your battles, you need to "know your enemy and know yourself" as Sun Tzu put it.
Let's take a look at that enemy, who ironically, is yourself:
You're Scared, and Let's Face it — Everybody is
Or at very least was at some point in their lives. As Jack Canfield puts it, “everything you want is on the other side of fear.” Fear has and always will be the greatest enemy of success. It grips, paralyzes, and if you don't give it a good old-fashioned brawl, it will suck the life out of you. You can read all of the self-help books in the world, but they only repeat the same thing over and over again. Read one and you've read them all. But most of them make this gruesomely belabored and yet absolutely brilliant point —
You can't beat fear without trying until you succeed.
Your most valuable ally in the quest for career success is failure.
Failure is Your Friend
Success never comes without failure, and the higher the goal, the bigger the failures will be — and here's the good part. Success will always follow failure. Maybe not the first time, or second time, or third. But the more you fail, the closer you get to your goal. It's a moderately grim cycle in some ways. One always follows the other — if you never try to climb a mountain, the good news is, you won't fall and break your head. On the other hand, you won't enjoy the success that follows the risk of failure.
I don't think anyone has successfully climbed to the top of Mt. Everest without trying, failing, and trying again with other mountains first. It takes dedication and experience to win at anything; again, success is the remedy of fear.
Start by naming your perfect, high-paying job "Mt. Everest", because that's exactly what it is. It's big, and you won't get that $100k+ position without working hard, which brings us to our next problem. Here's what Denis Waitely has to say about failure:
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”
Need some encouragement?
The best way to realize your potential is to understand how badly and how often the richest, most successful people in the world failed before they saw success. Read "Why you Can't Get a High Paying Job — And How to Fix Yourself (Part 2)" to see how 7 monumentally successful people failed.
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