When a person has friends or family members who are successful at their careers and are landing raises and promotions on a regular basis, being unemployed can be embarrassing and makes a person feel like a failure. This is why sometimes a jobless individual will hide it from family and friends.
A person’s employment is usually one of the first things that come up in a conversation, whether it’s someone that you have just met, a family member you haven’t seen in a longtime or a topic that is talked about in a group discussion. Therefore, it’s very difficult to hide the fact that you’re out of work, but it is possible.
In today’s economy, the labor force is in a crisis: the real unemployment rate is considered to be in the late-teens and early-20s, 40 percent of millennials account for the entire jobless population and the long-term unemployed represent nearly one-third (30 percent) of the nation’s jobless rate. Indeed, locating a job or some kind of employment is an easier said than done endeavor.
Of course, a person shouldn’t purposefully lie to others, but if you wish to conceal your unemployed status from your family and friends then here are six tips to incorporate into your scheme.
“How’s work?” “What’s new at the office?” and “Are you still working at the same company?” are usually some of the most common questions an acquaintance or a distant relative will ask. Rather than going into great detail, you can offer a vague response: “It’s fine,” “The company hasn’t done much” or “Nothing is new at office.” Another answer could be directly related to the other person: “What’s new at your work?” “Tell me about your interesting field,” or “Have you been working your way up the ladder?”
This will suffice the person’s appetite for work-related discussions.
When a family member starts talking about work or the quartet you’re with initiates a conversation about work, try to evade the discussion entirely. This can be done by asking direct questions to the person(s), changing the subject or taking yourself out of the situation (heading to the bathroom, leaving early or getting fresh air).
Instead of updating your LinkedIn, Facebook or Twitter profiles to indicate that you have lost your employment status with your company, wait until you have found a new job. In addition, don’t participate on any social networks throughout regular business hours because then this may hint that you’re jobless and goofing off.
Being out of work pretty much implies that you’re working harder than ever before: updating your resume, searching for new employment opportunities, participating in various interviews and so on. Rather than being at home, signing into Facebook and answering the phone, be inactive online, don’t answer the phone at home unless it’s for work and don’t head out to popular hotspots throughout the workday.
If you’re life revolves around being in the company of others then think about becoming a recluse for a little while. Just tell your friends and family that you don’t feel well, you’re going through a difficult time at the moment or you need time to re-evaluate your life, values and career for some time. This suggests to people you need to be alone but it doesn’t require an extensive explanation.
Freelancing, volunteering and temping
A lot of unemployed people sit at home and play the waiting game expecting a phone call from a potential employer. Instead of doing this, be active by freelancing your skills (writing, web designing and marketing), volunteering at a charity or taking part in temporary positions. If a family member or friend discovers this fact then you can simply state that you’re seeking out career alternatives – this doesn’t necessarily indicate that you’re jobless.
Nobody likes to be out of work because it can be a humiliating and morose experience, especially as other people in your social circle get ahead in their career path. It’s important to not feel ashamed and to simply trek on without letting other individuals influence your decisions or dampen your spirits.
Have you ever hidden your unemployment status from your friends and family? Let us know in the comment section.
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