People do all kinds of things to call attention to themselves. The ability to sell yourself, your ideas, and your unique qualities and attributes is critical to success, and strategies for social media campaigns abound with ways to promote yourself and your brand. In addition to your online presence, you want to be able to garner attention and respect in the real world as well. While there’s an abundance of advice out there on how to market yourself, there’s no need to reinvent the wheel. The following are 5 timeless traits that will win you the respect and admiration of your peers, and help you to stand out in a crowd.
1. Good manners
People are impressed by good manners, and we’re not talking about just saying please and thank you here. You want the kind of polished social skills that people will notice and remember. Holding doors, giving up your seat on the subway, sending thank you notes -all of these things are social niceties that people will remember, particularly when others are either too busy or too obsessed with themselves to be polite.
Do what you say you’re going to do, and show up when you say you will be there. Sounds easy, right? How many times have you been left disappointed and irritated when someone you were counting on arrived late, cancelled with little or no notice, or simply failed to show, offering the lame excuse that they forgot? Build a reputation for being the type of person others can depend on.
Watch how you speak, avoiding vulgar language and gossip. When everyone else is slamming a friend, colleague or boss refuse to take part. Don’t quibble over the lunch or dinner check, even if it means occasionally having to contribute more than your share. Tip service providers, take hostess gifts to parties, don’t cheap out when it comes to buying presents -all these things are classy and people will remember you for it.
Keep your cool under pressure. When everyone else is yelling, whining, or otherwise freaking out and behaving in ways that are undignified, maintain a calm tone of voice and refuse to get your feathers ruffled. In any given situation, pause before opening your mouth, take a deep breath, and remember that in the big picture, odds are that whatever is happening is not the end of the world. With that knowledge, react appropriately.
Operate from a position of generosity, in which you can afford to bestow graciousness on the people around you. Overlook minor mistakes, shortcomings and social gaffes, and don’t feel the need to crucify people for them. Be inclusive when working on projects with colleagues and underlings, share credit and give praise when it’s deserved. Be warm, be inviting, be kind-both in real life, as well as online. Being gracious will make you a person people want to work with and be around.
If any of these qualities don’t come naturally to you, just keep practicing. Adopting new behaviors and habits can take time. Keep working at it, and the positive response-and additional attention-you’ll receive from those around you will help you stay on track.