You spend most of your time with this person every day and you know them almost too well. You’ve got to like them so much that now it seems you just can’t get enough of them. There is this excitement and enthusiasm you feel every time you see them; you are lovesick and you can’t do anything about it.
Even though you are not sure about what your crush feels about you, you are thinking about making that next move but you don’t know whether that’s a good call. What do you do?
First, you need to ensure that you are not in the friend zone, because if you are, there is no way you are getting near that person and you might be putting your friendship at risk.
The bright side to this is that everybody has been friend-zoned. At least once in their life, I am sure everybody has experienced it and has been rejected by a person they liked. In order to help you avoid this rejection though, there are some signs that can help you tell if your crush likes you back or wants to be just friends.
To help you see light in the love tunnel, here are 8 signs that can tell you if you are in the friend zone:
1. They call you pet names outside of a relationship
If your crush calls you babe ‘wifey’, ‘sweety’, ‘honey’ this might be a sign that you have been friend zoned. While these are words you would normally use if you were in a relationship, it doesn’t work the same when your friend-crush says it to you. This could mean that they are reminding you that you are their friend and nothing more than that. Since your crush has known you for a while, they think it’s ok to use it and these words don’t carry the hidden meaning you’d expect.
2. They talk to you about other people
When they refer to other people as hot and beautiful this might be a sign that warns you to stay away. This is perhaps the easiest friend zone indicator as you can tell right away you are never going to be together. If your crush is telling you about how pretty or handsome that girl or boy is, then they are admitting that those people are more attractive than you and it means they are interested in them.
3. They call you ‘buddy’
‘Buddy’ is a friend zone word. If your crush calls you that, then you must have already clued upon the fact that you are in the friend zone right? This is perhaps the most classic friend zone indicator so when you hear the word ‘buddy’ it means it’s high time for you to run for your life. While it might not be what you want to hear, this shows that your crush can only see you as their friend.
4. You only hang-out in groups
Every time you ask your crush to go out, you always end up going out with a bunch of people who you have never met before. This is a clear sign that your crush has identified the fact you like them and now going out with you seems awkward and strange to them. If your crush avoids going out with you alone and always prefers to hang out in a group then this probably means you are friend zoned big time.
5. They are getting undressed in front of you
You know your crush doesn’t think of you ‘that’ way if they are getting undressed in front of you. If they were they wouldn’t consider taking their clothes off and would be much more concerned about exposing themselves to the person they care about. This means that despite the fact that you two are intimate enough, your crush doesn’t really care about what you have to say about them and even asks you for clothing advice.
6. They tell you their secrets
You may be feeling special when your crush shares their deepest secrets with you, but that’s not always a good sign. Think about it the other way around. Would you tell everything to the person you like? No, you wouldn’t. Even though this helps you build intimacy, for the other person it may only mean that you are really good friends who trust each other.
7. You are always paying for things
Buying a gift for your crush is a nice gesture, but if you are constantly paying things for your crush, then there is the possibility you are stuck in the friend zone. If they know you like them but they are not interested, they might be taking advantage of that and allowing you to pay for everything. However, you should know that even in a relationship, getting your wallet out for everything is not right whether you’re a man or a woman.
8. They’ve never made a move
You’ve known your crush for about 10 years now and still haven’t made a move. This is a big friend zone sign that says your crush regards you as their friend and nothing more than that. If this is someone who you have just met recently, but haven’t expressed their feelings after the third date you’ve gone out on you know it’s time to move on.
If you find that you are indeed in the friend zone after checking for these signs, don’t despair. If this is not meant to be, I am sure you will find somebody who is worthy of your time, appreciates you for who you are and can give you what you want in return.
In the meantime check out this interesting and insightful video from Vsauce to learn more about the science of the friend zone:
See Also: The Science of Love
Are you afraid you might be stuck in the friend zone? Do you think you are putting yourself in the friend zone one way or another? Let us know in the comment section below…