There’s nothing like the emotional rollercoaster of starting a new job. You’re excited from the moment you find out that you landed the position you were hoping for. Then the worry and anxiety sets in. Can you actually do the job? Will you make mistakes or impress your new boss and coworkers? The negative thoughts are endless, but soon you settle into your new office and you’re full of motivation. Then your mind starts churning all over again, and suddenly you’re no longer as enthuiastic about this job as you were before. Read on to discover 5 thoughts that will ruin any enthusiasm that you have for your job, no matter how much you enjoy what you do.
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1. You aren't as qualified as your coworkers
We all have different educational and work backgrounds. But if we’re in the same industry and wind up at the same company, it’s safe to say that there are commonalities in terms of how each employee got their start. You might have exactly the same qualifications as the people you work with. However, if the person sitting beside you has a graduate degree and you only have an undergraduate degree, you might start to feel like you’re not good enough. This will make it difficult to have enough self-esteem and confidence to be able to perform at your best.
If you think this way, it’s best to realize that you were hired for a reason and that your boss definitely knows what they’re doing. If they wanted someone with a higher level of education, for instance, they would have hired them. You have unique abilities and skills, and that’s why you were hired. You deserve your position so never think otherwise.
2. You don't fit into the office culture
Being a part of the modern working world means interacting with all kinds of people. Some you will get along with, maybe even so much so that you will make close friends at work. Others you won’t get along with at all. If you’re feeling sorry for yourself because you don’t have any work friends, and everyone goes out for lunch on Fridays without inviting you, you definitely have a right to feel that way. Some offices can be petty and full of gossip and can even feel a lot like high school.
Having the self-defeating thought of not fitting in is definitely going to ruin your drive to succeed at the office. You won’t look forward to going to work in the morning and you will even start to dread the place. It’s hard to put in your best effort, let alone any effort at all if you hate being somewhere.
Everyone feels like the new kid at work when starting a new job and hopefully that feeling goes away. If you’ve been at your job for years and still have yet to form any office relationships, then just accept it and focus on your work. We may be the best fit for a certain position, but don’t click with the others typing away on their computers near us, and that’s okay. It’s just a fact of life.
3. Your boss will never like you
This is a big one. Our relationship with the person above us is a tricky and complex one. There’s a fine line between being overly friendly and unprofessional with your boss and with just trying to look like you care about the job that you’re doing. If your boss never says a nice thing about you or your work, only tells you a series of complaints during your annual or 6 month review and generally seems to dislike you, it’s normal to think that you will never be able to win their approval.
This is a dangerous way to think, however, true it might be because it will make you completely uninspired about doing your job. You’re going to wonder why you should even bother when nothing you do will ever be good enough. Why meet a deadline or put your best foot forward when you will only be rejected or insulted?
If you’re in this situation, there’s not much you can do besides leave your job and find another one where you hopefully get along better with your manager. But beyond quitting, you can definitely change your outlook. Decide that you’re going to do the best work you can do for yourself, not for your boss, not for anyone else. This is will stop you from caring what your boss thinks or says.
4. You'll never have a life
Are you burning the midnight oil several times a week at your desk? Do you see both the sunrise and the sunset from your office window? Are relaxing weekends a thing of the past, not to mention the mere concept of a vacation? If this describes you, you either have a terrible job that never lets you see the light of day or you’re going through a rough time filled with deadlines and too much work. It happens to all of us, but that doesn’t mean we don’t have a life.
If your career has become your life, no matter how much you may enjoy your job, this can make you less enthusiastic about what you do because you’ll realize that your job is taking over. You will lament the good old days when you saw friends on the weekends and actually got home by 6 p.m. on a weeknight. It’s exhausting and stressful to work so much, and that exhaustion will carry over and make you think negative thoughts about how your career is no longer as fun as it once was.
5. You're going to mess up during this presentation/project/etc
There’s nothing more self-defeating than being assigned work and believing that you won’t be able to perform well. This is disheartening and depressing. It will hinder your productivity and motivation, and your fear of failure will be so pronounced and overwhelming that you will barely be able to think straight, let alone get the project finished. We all go through this from time to time, no matter how adept we are at what we do. Maybe you’re trying to impress your boss because you’ve got your eye on an upcoming promotion, or it’s your first time presenting something to a prospective client. Your nerves will rise along with the stakes involved, so if this is a super important project, it’s only natural to wonder if you can really hack it.
What separates the successes from the failures, however, is the ability to move past your fear and do what you have to do anyway. You can use your fear to fuel you when you’re not so sure you can do it. You definitely can, so take a few deep breaths and get to work.
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Are negative, self-defeating thoughts driving you crazy and making you hate the job you once absolutely loved? These 5 thoughts can destroy how enthusiastic you feel about your job. Don’t let that describe you and make sure you stay positive and believe that you can do anything that comes up at the office. You’re in your position for a reason, after all.
Have you experienced any of these 5 thoughts? Are there any that we missed out?