We all dream of working in some perfect job that makes us feel as though we’re doing something meaningful with our lives.
Or at least, something we mostly enjoy. But, let’s be realistic... For some of us, that’s just not happening – not right now anyway.
Do you dread the thought of getting out of bed in the morning? Or, maybe you get anxious just before heading out the front door.
Your job starts to feel like one long prison sentence and it’s hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
When we work in jobs that aren’t soul-fulfilling – in other words, that aren’t helping us reach our overall career or lifestyle goals, we can get depressed, resentful, or highly stressed.
This type of stress doesn’t only take a massive toll on our overall health – but it also chips away at the relationships with those closest to us.
Sure, you’ve thought about quitting. But it’s not that easy...
You’ve got responsibilities, bills that need paying – you can’t just up and leave. So you stick it out because you feel like there’s no way out.
Change Your Mindset
Maybe you feel like this is just the way it’s supposed to be. That you should be grateful for having a job and that’s the end of it. Yes, of course we should be thankful for the jobs we have, but where is there an unwritten rule that we can’t be happy at the same time?
Why one and not the other?
That’s where the sanity part comes in. When you can’t leave your job anytime soon, you’ve got to find some sort of balance.
You’ve got to find your light at the end (or middle) of the tunnel.
Here are four practical ways you can start doing this – no matter what job you’re in...
1. Stop. Breathe. Decide.
The first thing you have to do, is stop complaining about how much you hate your job. Accept that you’re somewhere you don’t want to be and make the decision to change it.
2. Believe in YOU
The second thing you want to do is to start believing that you are worthy of something better. We all have special skills and abilities and we’re all put on this earth for a reason. It’s time to fight for your future – or the future of your loved ones. Remember, a happier you also means a happier family – there’s nothing selfish about that.
3. See what’s out there
It might sounds scary at first, but you’ll never know what else is out there if you don’t look. And don’t forget – applying for jobs isn’t the only way to get them. I got two of my best jobs by simply sending out my CV to a company on a whim.
- Spend a few minutes after you get home, or over weekends to update your CV and draft a cover letter. (You can tweak both for each job application later).
- Scour the internet for job advertisements or companies you want to work at. Learn about them and see what you could offer them. Make up a contact list.
4. Find your daily light
You might not find that next job right away, so while you’re researching companies or sending out applications, it’s important to keep yourself motivated and happy every day.
- Make a habit of doing one thing you look forward to each day. It can be going for a lunchtime stroll, having coffee or lunch with a friend, cooking a new recipe for dinner, joining a zumba class after work, or starting your day with some relaxing yoga or meditation, for example.
- Keep yourself motivated by reading inspirational quotes – there are literally thousands available online!
- Remind yourself that this too shall pass and that sometimes things happen for a reason.
Life has a way of testing us sometimes. For me, being in the most stressful and soul-destroying jobs forced me out of my comfort zone. It’s not easy for everyone to reach out to new companies or apply for other jobs.
But then again, the best things in life are never free or easy, are they? Good luck!