So you just got engaged and now it’s time to plan the wedding. This is an exciting time for you and you’ll have lots of planning to do to make your special day spectacular. You can hire a wedding planner, but you’ll still have organizing and planning to do on your own. If you can’t hire a wedding planner, you’ll have even more planning to do. You may be wondering how you can get everything done and still keep your day job. You can do some planning during the day while working, but you may have to maneuver your schedule -and make sure you don’t irritate your boss with too much wedding planning and not enough working. No matter what way you look at it, a wedding needs time and dedication, and as your boss is unlikely to understand why you need to take every afternoon off until you find the perfect dress, we have compiled this guide for you to help you plan your wedding without losing your job.
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1. Set Limits to Your Wedding Planning at Work
You need to set limits on your wedding planning and how much time you’ll spend while you’re supposed to be working. One of the main reasons you need to have limits on your planning is because preparing for your wedding can become a full-time job and you don’t want to risk losing the job that actually pays you. Make sure you check with your company’s policies on employees using computers for personal use and to what extent management monitors websites you visit. You don’t want your boss walking in to your office with wedding magazines and your vision board spread all over your desk. Restrict your vision board to your phone, you can use The Knot for example and try to steer clear from using your work laptop or computer for wedding planning. You’re supposed to be working after all.
If your coworkers suspect you’re holed up in your office planning your wedding all day long, you may cultivate an atmosphere of resentment among your colleagues. You’ll probably find yourself daydreaming about dresses, cakes and wedding locations. However, if you ever hope to make it to the altar with your sanity intact and still be gainfully employed, you need to set boundaries. For example, make specific limits for when you can work on wedding plans, such as only during your lunch hour, morning or afternoon breaks, or when work is slow. Consider coming in half hour early each morning to get some planning done before you start work. If you take the bus, train or carpool to work, you can get wedding planning done during your commute. Whatever limits you set, stick to them so that you don’t get caught up in wedding planning excitement and allow it to overtake your job responsibilities because no matter how much wedding cake you promise your colleagues, they are unlikely to understand that wedding planning is more important.
2. Ask a Friend or Coworker for Help
This can become a tricky situation in the workplace. You do not want to get a friend or coworker involved in your planning, and then have this person get caught by their boss and reprimanded for helping you when they should be working. Only ask a friend who is completely willing to help and understands that you’re not asking her to neglect work duties. Remind your friends that they should follow your rule of not using their work computer for any wedding planning unless absolutely necessary. Even then, they should stick to working on plans during their break times. You’re simply trying to work with a wedding planning partner to help you get more done during the day. If you have a few friends who you are considering to ask to be in the bridal party, ask for help from them so you can delegate more responsibilities and there will be less work for everyone to do.
For example, have one of your wedding helpers check into floral prices and someone else can research photographers while you look for the best venue for the reception. When you have others helping you, the planning will be simpler and you can also focus on getting your daily work done. One caveat is that you ensure you and your wedding helpers are all on the same page. For example, if your friend scheduled a time for you to sample wedding cakes and your fiancé is not available -and you wanted to go to the tasting together- you’ll need to reschedule. Make things easier on yourself and your wedding helpers by having a planning meeting first during your lunch break or before or after work to get the details and tasks straight.
3. Effectively Organize Wedding Tasks at Work
Now that you have limits on your wedding planning during the day, and your wedding helpers in place, you need to effectively organize your wedding tasks. It is important to be organized so that you don’t go crazy with all the planning and can still stay focused on being productive at work. Your wedding tasks should be organized and ranked by priorities. Utilize a wedding planning checklist to help you organize the tasks by timeline. For example, you need to figure out where you want to get married and choose the venue soon before you worry about getting the guys’ tuxedos which can be done later on. Additionally, having an engagement photo shoot must be placed at the top of the list as well. While you are creating your task list, you need to figure out your budget and ensure that you stick to it as best you can.
4. Implement the Planning Stage at Work
Once you have your wedding tasks prioritized, it’s time to implement the planning stage. You need to ensure that you keep any wedding planning within the boundaries of the limits you set in step one. It is true that in order to best plan a wedding –especially one with a large guest list- you start a year in advance. However, it is possible to plan a wedding in less time. The caveat is that if you’re working full-time; you need to give priority to your job and find ways to fit the wedding planning into your day without sabotaging your optimal work performance.
For example, you should also make a to-do list for your actual work so that it will keep you on track with the tasks you need to complete each day. Use one of these tracking apps to help you while working. This way, you can avoid getting behind on deadlines because you’re too focused on planning your wedding. When you’re scheduling vendor visits such as with a band, the caterer, the venue etc., make sure you’ll have enough time for the meeting. Don’t schedule this during your lunch hour unless the vendor is down the street from your office and you’ll have enough time to get back to work after your break is over. It’s okay to do some planning at work, but you may have to schedule most of your vendor visits for after work or on the weekends.
5. Be Realistic in Your Perspective
It is important to be realistic in your perspective. You need to realize that you will have days when you’re frazzled because the planning is not going as you’d hoped. There will be days when you are busy working on a project for one of your company’s big clients and it’s all hands on deck -which means you can’t get any wedding planning done at work that week, not even during your break time. Accept that you won’t be able to control each step along the way.
Make a correlation in your mindset that planning for this wedding is similar to how you and your coworkers work on team projects. No one can get the work done all alone. The project may seem overwhelming, but when tasks are broken down and delegated, the work gets done. In order to help keep your perspective focused on work and in balance with wedding planning, schedule a weekly lunch or dinner date with your fiancé to have fun and relax and remember why you agreed to get married in the first place.
Planning your wedding should be fun. Try not to allow the stress to get you down. When planning your wedding while working full-time, consider following the steps outlined in this article so that you can maximize your planning while still work to your optimal potential in your job.
Have you ever planned your wedding or helped a friend to plan a wedding while working full-time?